Being a Switch

My stories have dominant female characters (like those found in The Nurse: Tales of Female Dominance) and submissive female characters (like those found in The Wings: Tales of Male Dominance).

So, what gives?

My imagination can pretty much go anywhere, but I think I get a boost from being a switch in real life too.

What is a switch?

A switch is someone that feels comfortable in dominant or submissive roles. In my case, I am often drawn to one or the other because of specific chemistry with a partner (or my mood at the moment). I have actually had quite a few instances in my life of changing roles in the middle of a scene, because my partner and I just followed the energy where it led us.

When I have a female or feminine partner, I am almost always drawn to being a Dominant and maintaining that all of the time. I have occasionally bottomed, but in those cases I tend not to bring any submissive energy with me. I am just accepting intense sensation or bondage, but not handing over my power.

When playing with males or masculine partners, I am fairly divided. Some men draw the Dominant energy out of me immediately, and it is impossible for me to think of being anything else with them. Others bring chemistry to our interaction that puts me into submissive or slave space. Rare men can flow from dynamic to dynamic with me, depending on our moods.

I think that having a variety of play experiences and roles has been helpful to me as a writer, because I get to write what I know.

That said, I certainly have written up situations that I've had no experience with at all. In Through the Woods: A compilation of gay, lesbian, and bisexual erotica and romance, for example, the story Cannibal explores vore fantasy and has a gay male dominant. I've never actually been involved in a scene exactly like that, so it was a bit of a stretch.

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