Being a Switch

My stories have dominant female characters (like those found in The Nurse: Tales of Female Dominance) and submissive female characters (like those found in The Wings: Tales of Male Dominance).

So, what gives?

My imagination can pretty much go anywhere, but I think I get a boost from being a switch in real life too.

What is a switch?

A switch is someone that feels comfortable in dominant or submissive roles. In my case, I am often drawn to one or the other because of specific chemistry with a partner (or my mood at the moment). I have actually had quite a few instances in my life of changing roles in the middle of a scene, because my partner and I just followed the energy where it led us.

When I have a female or feminine partner, I am almost always drawn to being a Dominant and maintaining that all of the time. I have occasionally bottomed, but in those cases I tend not to bring any submissive energy with me. I am just accepting intense sensation or bondage, but not handing over my power.

When playing with males or masculine partners, I am fairly divided. Some men draw the Dominant energy out of me immediately, and it is impossible for me to think of being anything else with them. Others bring chemistry to our interaction that puts me into submissive or slave space. Rare men can flow from dynamic to dynamic with me, depending on our moods.

I think that having a variety of play experiences and roles has been helpful to me as a writer, because I get to write what I know.

That said, I certainly have written up situations that I've had no experience with at all. In Through the Woods: A compilation of gay, lesbian, and bisexual erotica and romance, for example, the story Cannibal explores vore fantasy and has a gay male dominant. I've never actually been involved in a scene exactly like that, so it was a bit of a stretch.

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Ageplay

I was a bit worried about submitting it to Amazon, to be honest. So far, it seems that my worries were unfounded. I’m very clear that the story is about two adults, and they seem to get that at the moment. So, that is wonderful.

I wrote Ageplay quite a few years ago, soon after I’d designed LittleGirl Lost’s BDSM Ageplay site. At the time, there were a lot of diaper lovers (people with a fetish for diapers on adults) and Adult Babies (folks that like to roleplay as infants). There were not a lot of folks that roleplayed ranges from baby to adolescent, or even pretended to be geriatric. I did all of those things, and as various genders.

I needed to find a word to describe what I was doing, and ageplay seemed the logical choice.

A lot of ageplay folks are actually into nonsexual play, so they may only want to roleplay this way and do things like go to the zoo and get icecream and a balloon with someone that loves them. They would be absolutely traumatized at the introduction of any sexual element to their experience.

Other folks are sexual ageplayers, so they might enjoy going to that same zoo while their partner talks them into a sexual experience.

Then there are adult ageplay kids like me, that are leather to the core and all about sexual play. I often engage in pretty rough roleplay that might have all the saccharine sweetness and adorable bonding of nonsexual play, combined with psychologically intense fantasies like kidnapping and assault.

Even though I enjoy rougher play, there is always an emotion closeness in ageplay that I often find hard to reproduce any other way.  It is a beautiful thing, when folks get it (and they aren’t just dressing up as stuff or using the word to describe some interest in people who are actually much younger in reality). Ageplay is a type of edgy improvisational acting, and anyone with stage experience will tell you that beautiful relationships can spring from such exercises.

I try to capture the relationship (more than the sex) in my novelette. I wanted to show that Andrew and Patty are in love, playful, and responsible. They are also folks that are unapologetic in their exploration of their consensual sexuality, even though their fantasies may be pretty taboo. I wanted to show that love and respect can make for hotter roleplay.

Ultimately, I followed my own first rule.

I wrote the story that I wanted to read, and that would get me excited.

You can find an entire list of my books at: My Amazon Bio.

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